Why Relationships Fail

Why relationships feel the strain and can fail...

There are many reasons why relationships fail. Here are some of the more common ones. If you can spot some of these in your relationship now, then hopefully you will be able to address them before they get too severe and cause the end of the relationship. I have listed these below as they came to me so there is not necessarily any order to them!

Relationship problem one: Unequal Interest On Both Sides

There is nothing worse than when one partner in a relationship likes the other person more. This causes an imbalance where one will tend to overpower the other one with messages and wanting reassurance whilst the other will start to get annoyed by this as they feel more indifferent.

Of course two people can grow closer and more in love over time, but if there is not equal interest on both sides it is usually a recipe for disaster further down the line. If you can see this in your relationship it might be better to get out now before one or both parties end up getting hurt down the line - there has to be strong feelings on both sides for a healthy and long lasting relationship.

Relationship problem two: Lack of Time or Shared Interests

You need to have some shared interests so that there are things you can do together and enjoy. If you have very different hobbies for instance one partner loves reading whilst the other hates it and loves to go out clubbing then you will rarely spend time that you both enjoy together! Therefore try to find some common interests that you both enjoy, whether it is going for a walk together or going to the cinema - common ground is great for building a relationship as you can share fun experiences with each other this way.

Also lack of time is a common reason. If one partner is working hard and always too busy or too tired to do anything or spend quality time then naturally you can start to drift apart over time. Lack of time is usually reparable so if you make a big commitment to find at least one day a week that you can spend most of the time together, often on the weekend, then this should be enough to keep those embers of the relationship burning long enough for it to be rekindled!

Relationship problem three: attitude, habits and communication

Bad habits or an attitude from one partner often lead to failure. Particularly when you move in there can be a sharp rise in relationship break down as one partner or both are hard to live with. Particularly if you are clean and your partner is messy, for instance, then this can cause friction as it annoys you both that the other is how they are. This is where the word compromise comes in.

If one partner has a bad attitude and will not compromise how they are, then it can be a daunting sign and a little bleak for times ahead so try to resolve as soon as possible. Good communication is another must in a proper relationship. As soon as you stop communicating thoughts, feelings and so on then the relationship is much harder to sustain as you need a level of openness in a relationship that is perhaps not as necessary in a friendship where you spend less time with each other.

Well, these are some of the major causes of strain and problems in a relationship - hopefully they are of use but you don't have any or at least more than one in your relationship! If you can think of any other reasons let me know through my profile and I'll add them!

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