How To Build Confidence
|Self Development : Confidence|
What causes a lack of confidence? Well, many things together can conspire to undermine confidence.
Often it is due to the way that society has behaved towards us. For instance, bullying at school or simply being unpopular can lead to a lack of confidence.
Or perceived pressure from the media to look and act a certain way can also make those who do not conform to that alleged ideal feel insecure and also lack confidence.
Certainly one of the biggest causes of lack of confidence is continual comparison with peers and feeling that, compared to them, you are less able, or less intelligent, or less attractive, or less articulate, or less popular - or a whole combination of these and many other qualities.
So, how do you get confidence, and the success that comes with it?
Well, a good start is to have a firm belief in yourself and the goals that you want to achieve. This means, developing a sense of self worth.
Remember that you deserve to feel confident and good about yourself just as much as anybody else. You might find it useful to read inspirational quotes, or watch movies that inspire you, or even read books from the library that are there to inspire you and improve your feeling of self worth.
You need to coach and train yourself to develop confidence it is not an instant thing.
You also need to learn to stop comparing yourself to others - the grass is always greener on the other side and causes misery on this side. Focus on yourself, your goals, dreams and wishes rather than others.
Influence that which you can influence - yourself and your interactions with others. Let go of worrying about anything outside of those things you can directly control.
Also surround yourself with trusted people and good friends. If you have lost touch with good friends from the past, make an effort to reconnect and rekindle old friendships.
Above all, look in the mirror and love yourself - walk tall, be proud of yourself, what you stand for, and all that you possess.
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