How To Deal With Negative Comments
|Self Development : Happiness|
One of the biggest obstacles to our own happiness is the attitudes and comments of others.
For instance, if you are going out for the evening and put a lot of attention into your look, only to be told by a relative or friend "you look awful" then it likely to knock your confidence and make you miserable.
Or if you have a great idea that you are excited about and want to share, only to be told "oh don't do that, it wouldn't work" or "that's just stupid - get a grip of the real world" - then again it can be very deflating.
One or two knocks we can take, but we're not like a punchbag that'll swing back every time it gets knocked.
In sum, negative comments over time are one of the biggest reasons people are unhappy. Particularly if you are the sort of person who cares deeply about what others think and their opinion of you, and mull things over in your head after the event.
Therefore you need to come up with a recipe for how to deal with negative comments.
The first thing to decide is to make a list of those who you care about and value the opinions of. Good friends and family will only give negative comments when there is good reason (unless in an argument etc.,) and therefore it makes sense to take in their thoughts.
However, people at work or less well known acquaintances might be deliberately nasty for no reason through jealousy or some other motivation.
Therefore the best way to deal with negative comments is to ignore them from most people - their opinions shouldn't be powerful enough to affect your own happiness. With some mental training you will learn to discard the negativity from your life that is burdened on you by others, and happiness will be within reach.
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